Saturday, 4 November 2017

India- The Shadowed part

Indian's are in each corner of the world. Many of you would have seen Indian's in your country.How do you perceive them ? How do you perceive India as a country? Many of them think India as a country of Snake Charmers,Poverty,illiteracy,dirt,slums ,caste system etc.Many of them know India from Bollywood from the popular movie "Slumdog Millionaire". Well,it's not your fault you think about India in this way. It is how India and Indian's are projected to the world . India does has some imperfections but which country don't?

Next time you see any Indian in your country ,do remember their country is the now one of the fastest growing economies in the world. But you are only shown the scarcities of India. India has always been a Multicultural society and tolerant to each and every culture. India is a country where it allows its minorities to thrive and  grow in numbers. India is a country where many Dharmic traditions were born like Jainism,Buddhism Hinduism and Sikhism in India . India is a country which gave shelter to many immigrants and refugees with open arms and treated as one of them. India even accommodated the ideologies of different religions which did not originate from their own land.Irrespective of caste, religions people end up becoming Prime Ministers,Presidents and Chief Ministers.

Many countries have ridiculed India on their weakness and stingily highlighted their achievements. India is a democratic country and yes they can speak loud about their problems to the Government.Indians are not only feeding the hungry and  poor in their own country but also outside India by their philanthropic works through their Temples and Gurudwaras. For many years you were told about the poor sanitation of India but you were never told that "Indians were the pioneers of ancient sanitation system long before many countries got civilized". Yes still India has problems and Indian Govt is running some schemes to erode the loopholes .

Not many people around the world know that India is the 4th strongest military in the world. India was invaded by many countries for several years.Even after being the 4th largest military India never tried to put on its eyes on any country to invade.India never believed in muscle flexing like other countries .India is top in producing Software engineers. ISRO is the pioneer space exploration agency which sends satellites into the space at very cheaper prices fulfilling the dreams of many poor countries. Indians are very kindhearted and tolerant people .Very less people know that India was very rich in ancient times and the wealth which attracted many invaders to come to India. Gradually India was pushed into poverty and exploitation.

Many of you might have made prejudices about India and Indians because of what you were shown and said .India gave Yoga,Plastic surgery,Astronomy,Astrology etc which I will be talking in my next blog.Indians are Hospitable, accommodating and tolerant. Atithi devo Bhavah (Guests are like gods) this is what we believe in.

Monday, 30 October 2017

Tough times in Life

In life each individual wants to fulfill their dreams,but how many really do ? This is a big question . In our childhood we have many aspirations but as time pass by the aspirations get blur. There are many reasons for it financial crisis in the family, unstable relationships of their parents or any form of crisis etc due to which the dreams remain unfulfilled. But we grow up we encounter the practicalities of life . Life becomes tougher and tougher as we grow old. This is the time you have to take the strong decision,whether to hold the rope tightly or let off your dreams.

When you apply jobs and get rejected several times ,yes we feel the darkness but trust me its OK. "If you are facing any kind of  crisis right now ,I know you even dont want to get out of the bed in the morning ,it might be that bad.Please remember this crisis comes to serve the person who wants to use it as a fuel." Its because we know the dark times never last ,one day the dark clouds will pass by and the sunshine behind the clouds will be seen.Pain is always there because life is freaking painful but suffering is a choice.

Sometimes you feel that people around you don't know the darkness inside you ,but it is OK ,you know it.If you are victimized by your thoughts then you are victimized by your past. You can use memories but never allow memories to use you. pain is there in everyone's life. Many just pretend that they are not infected by it and do things pretending to be normal. But trust me use the pain as your instrument to achieve your goals,dreams.Live your life.Embrace the darkness ,embrace your life.

'When you are young ,don't fear to do mistakes ,any mistake is an income." To achieve something what you want,you need to believe in yourself. Criticism,insult do come in your way ,at that juncture you need to think "Do I need to achieve my dreams or just to please people ".If you have a dream don't let it go off. "Fortune favors the bold" ,people who bravely go after what they want are more closer to their dreams than the people who want to stay in a bubble.Work hard for the idea which you want to achieve.

Please remember your will be achieving the things you want if you want to . In the end everything will be OK if not then it's not the end.

Thursday, 26 October 2017

Ratan Tata-A Great Visionary

Ratan Tata a Charismatic personality was born on 28th December 1937 in Surat ,Gujarat .He is a well qualified man completed his B.S degree in Architecture with Structural Engineering and Advanced Management Program from Harvard Business School.

Ratan Tata joined Tata group in 1961 and his first job was Shoveling Limestone and handle Blast furnace.J.R.D Tata in 1991 named Ratan Tata as his successor for Tata Group. This decision of J.R.D Tata was criticized and opposed by many as Ratan Tata lacked experience to hold that prestigious and responsible position. But with his impeccable Leadership skills he has proved his mettle by taking Tata Group to the new heights. Under his leadership Tata Group has acquired Corus,Jaguar ,Land Rover and Tetley which are one of the Big Brands now. Tata Groups's revenue is 40 times the 1991 level which is a big achievement .

He also fulfilled his dream of launching the Worlds cheapest car i,e Nano .As people say  "All good things come to an end" ,he resigned from his responsibilities on his 75th birthday in 2012.
The only thing Tata Group employees say about him is , Ratan Tata is a real jewel like his name in real life.

Saturday, 27 September 2014

Inferiority Complex

Inferiority Complex seems like a small word but the results are drastic and catastrophic. We are all born with same flesh and blood, same emotions and needs…the inequalities and barriers of color, creed, gender and religion are made by human to fulfill his devilish needs.
An inferiority complex means you think yourself to be not worthy in that particular subject or area of your life.You think you are not up to the mark to be compared with others and feel low. At that point your Self Esteem and Self Confidence is low and you make up for feeling inferior in your behavior and life choices. From that point of time either you become compromise the suffering or become antisocial. We have to be strong mentally; unless and until the foundation is weak we can’t rise up from this situation.

Inferiority Complex develops in different stages:

1)      Inferior Feelings imbibed at Childhood
Everyone’s intelligence level might not be the same, everyone’s communication level might differ, everyone can't be fair and everyone can't bear in a rich family. We have to accept
How we are and yes we have the possibility to change that. For instance, in our childhood teachers appreciate some students and scold some according to the situations. But the students at that age are very tender and they keep those things in mind and they get mentally disturbed and each time when they see that particular teacher they tend to get inferiority complex. In many countries children mostly get affected of inferiority complex because of their parents can’t buy good dresses for their children ,don't have good toys compared to their friends as a result in those children that inferiority feeling has been rooted from the childhood as of which after growing old also still they possess that feeling.

William Blake had expressed so beautifully, the hope of a Little Black Boy:
“My mother bore me in the southern wild,
 And I am black, but O! My soul is white;…”

2)      In Adulthood
When we have some objective in life and when we can't achieve that or think it is very far to achieve that then we automatically get that inferiority feeling
 These feelings arise when:

When people around you have more money than you
When people around you are smarter or prettier than you
When you think you are not as talented, knowledgeable or skilled than your colleagues, friends
When you don't have the same level of qualification as people around you have
When your house is small as compared to your friends or colleague
When your juniors know more than you
When people around you wear good dress than you in a party

These are some of the points which you also have noticed in you when you feel inferiority complex.

How can we come out of this Inferior Complex feeling?

1)      Find out the hidden facts
Someone who makes you feel inferior at work may perhaps have their eye on an upcoming promotion by strengthening their own position. They try to achieve this by making you feel inadequate and unsuitable for moving up the career ladder. Look beyond the here and now and try seeing the bigger picture. Awareness of such circumstances may well prepare you to avoid falling prey to the trap of believing that you're not capable.

2)      Aware of the situation and circumstances which you cannot change
People may criticize you on the grounds of color, ethnic background, Sexual orientation, creed over which a person has no control over it.This type of comments may have deep effect on a person’s feelings and emotions. It’s difficult to   change the looks, creed, and color as he has no solution to change it .When this Kind of situations occur focus on your uniqueness and your beliefs.

3)      Open to Criticism
 Building on and improving your weakness is the good option to avoid feeling inferiority complex.
If you improve your weakness it helps to prevent you from getting those feelings rather becoming low and depressed. But some natural things can’t be changed so we have to be mentally strong for that.

Friday, 13 December 2013

What others think of me?

Does this question really have any value in our lives? We most of the time think and do what others like. I have a question in my mind lingering from many days “Are we living this life to please others”? In every aspect we take a decision by keeping other people in our mind whether it is clothes, footwear, even your career. 

“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” – By Vernon Howard

This is where many of the challenges start when they think “What others think of me”? When a person thinks “What others think of us” then we are sabotaging our own lives. If we want to live how we want to rather than what others want us to then we have to leave the habit of asking approvals for everything. .
No matter how much we try hard we can’t be liked by everyone, no matter how nice you are still people will be talking on your inappropriate behavior, your dressing style , the way you talk etc. . So how many people will you convince to like you as ho you are?

You have enemies? Good. That means you have stood up for something, sometime in your life.
You are not good or bad if somebody speaks out a statement in the air. While growing up we were told by our parents be nice to everyone and everyone will like you. Is that really happening in our lives? A question to ask yourself. However nice you try to be with people, you will definitely encounter oppositions against you .What does that imply? Are you not good? Not really. If some people don’t like us it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us, for that is not true.

You can’t control what other people think of you, what you can do is just to ask approvals.

Friday, 29 November 2013

The power of Aura

Feelings are nothing but energy which revolves around you. We are surrounded by different kind of feelings. These feelings do not stay inside us like the organs in our body but float around us.  Feelings are very powerful and fill our aura, often make a mark onto other people. This is a true fact which everyone might have observed that, being around angry people can make you feel angry and in the same way staying around a person having a jovial mood can make you feel happy.

There is nothing “Paranormal” in this universe except our limited understanding of Nature. We think we know much but that is just a tiny drop in the ocean. In the past people observed many things and could not explain and declared them miracles. In ancient times people used to see auras around people, the artists used to paint golden haloes around their head. Are they not real? This is not a miracle. I want to explain with an example that aura plays a vital role in influencing other people feelings and emotions.

Children up to 5 years of age can see auras naturally. Infants frequently look above a person’s head if you have observed. They can actually see the aura and come to know that they are having a good or a bad aura. The infants see the color of the aura of a person, if the color don’t match the color of the aura their parents are having then they cry, no matter how much the person is smiling.
When people are angry, why the other person around him/her becomes angry? It is the vibration which influences people. We can make our aura clean and bright by thinking right things. Sounds very illogical right but there are many people if we observe , even when they are angry we don’t get pissed off or become angry , this is because he/she has a good aura that is vibration which makes other people happy . 

I think aura plays a very vital role in your life and in others also with whom you are staying or living with. You can judge a person by the aura whether he/she is thinking something good or bad.  So, knowing your own aura or other people’s aura a difficult task?  Probably yes but not impossible. 


Monday, 28 October 2013

Express right emotions

“Girls express their feelings via tears and boys express it via beers” , well these are not my words mind it .  This statement looks really awkward but it is the live scenario.  People could start a research on this why can’t vice versa happen? Why can’t boys also start expressing their feelings through tears?  I don’t understand whether it is a myth or for the sake of status they don’t express their feelings through tears and take the help of a liquid which just intoxicates and after the effect gets over the same old story.

God gave these emotions not to store for future purpose but to utilize when it is required. When we are in a state of mental pain or have some hurt feeling it is the right moment to cry out and flow your tears out . I think there is no discrimination made by god just by gifting tears only to females. He did justice by giving to both male and female so cry out and express your feelings.  According to the study after crying out 40-50% of the pain which we were witnessing earlier gets decreased and people feel good.

What is the use by showing yourself strong from outside but from inside you are crying out ears each moment. If you cry out at least you will get some sympathy from other people and you will feel somewhat good. We have to use the emotions in the right place and also at right time which helps us to cope with that situation. Especially youth take the company of alcohol if some tragedy happens in life. Is that really needed? 

So just use your emotions to make yourself comfortable and satisfied with your life. Emotions play a vital role in one’s life whether the person is in school, college, a working professional or a retired person. After all are humans and all of them have emotions A small suggestion if you could find the secret of controlling your own emotions then there will be no person happier than you in this whole world and the secret lies in you. So know yourself and explore. It is better to cry than dying every day.

“Feeling Gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it “ -  William Arthur Ward