Inferiority Complex seems like a small word but the results are drastic and catastrophic. We are all born with same flesh and blood, same emotions and needs…the inequalities and barriers of color, creed, gender and religion are made by human to fulfill his devilish needs.
An inferiority complex means you think yourself to be not worthy in that particular subject or area of your life.You think you are not up to the mark to be compared with others and feel low. At that point your Self Esteem and Self Confidence is low and you make up for feeling inferior in your behavior and life choices. From that point of time either you become compromise the suffering or become antisocial. We have to be strong mentally; unless and until the foundation is weak we can’t rise up from this situation.
Inferiority Complex develops in different stages:
1) Inferior Feelings imbibed at Childhood
Everyone’s intelligence level might not be the same, everyone’s communication level might differ, everyone can't be fair and everyone can't bear in a rich family. We have to accept
How we are and yes we have the possibility to change that. For instance, in our childhood teachers appreciate some students and scold some according to the situations. But the students at that age are very tender and they keep those things in mind and they get mentally disturbed and each time when they see that particular teacher they tend to get inferiority complex. In many countries children mostly get affected of inferiority complex because of their parents can’t buy good dresses for their children ,don't have good toys compared to their friends as a result in those children that inferiority feeling has been rooted from the childhood as of which after growing old also still they possess that feeling.
William Blake had expressed so beautifully, the hope of a Little Black Boy:
“My mother bore me in the southern wild,
And I am black, but O! My soul is white;…”
2) In Adulthood
When we have some objective in life and when we can't achieve that or think it is very far to achieve that then we automatically get that inferiority feeling
These feelings arise when:
When people around you have more money than you
When people around you are smarter or prettier than you
When you think you are not as talented, knowledgeable or skilled than your colleagues, friends
When you don't have the same level of qualification as people around you have
When your house is small as compared to your friends or colleague
When your juniors know more than you
When people around you wear good dress than you in a party
These are some of the points which you also have noticed in you when you feel inferiority complex.
How can we come out of this Inferior Complex feeling?
1) Find out the hidden facts
Someone who makes you feel inferior at work may perhaps have their eye on an upcoming promotion by strengthening their own position. They try to achieve this by making you feel inadequate and unsuitable for moving up the career ladder. Look beyond the here and now and try seeing the bigger picture. Awareness of such circumstances may well prepare you to avoid falling prey to the trap of believing that you're not capable.
2) Aware of the situation and circumstances which you cannot change
People may criticize you on the grounds of color, ethnic background, Sexual orientation, creed over which a person has no control over it.This type of comments may have deep effect on a person’s feelings and emotions. It’s difficult to change the looks, creed, and color as he has no solution to change it .When this Kind of situations occur focus on your uniqueness and your beliefs.
3) Open to Criticism
Building on and improving your weakness is the good option to avoid feeling inferiority complex.
If you improve your weakness it helps to prevent you from getting those feelings rather becoming low and depressed. But some natural things can’t be changed so we have to be mentally strong for that.